Nowadays, we hear everywhere about the importance of goals. Goals are important because they determine our direction. But is it really smart to focus on them so much? Here is my point of view.
But let’s start at the beginning… What are goals? “ A goal is an idea of the future or desired result that a person or a group of people envision, plan and commit to achieve..” – according to wikipedia. Really big goals often seem distant, but they provide tremendous motivation, however you may have noticed, motivation usually doesn’t last long.
The following goals may feel heavy in our daily lives:
- I want to lose 20 kgs
- I want to earn $100k a year
- I want to own a house
- I want to be healthy
- I want to achieve the following career goal: _____
In the end of the day, if you look in the mirror instead of happiness, you can easily feel bad about your current results. What goals do is they often make you only see the end-and starting point, and this black-and-white mindset easily leads to a negative spiral. Therefore, it may be a good idea to look at the process in everyday life instead of goals and ask yourself the question: What do I need to do on a regular basis in order to reach this goal within 1/5/20 years?
- I will exercise 4 times a week
- I will be active on social media at least 5 times a week and present my business
- I save x amounts per month for my own apartment
- I will drink fresh green juice every single day
- I read a book about my industry every month
They’re much more friendly, aren’t they? These are still goals, but they are smaller and more digestible to the mind. By the end of the day, you will be happy and satisfied if you hit them.
You gain space and so you can plan your days, weeks, months much more freely and efficiently, and the experience of success will not be missed. These processes will support you in achieving your long-term goals.
If you are open to get to know yourself in the light of this topic, I recommend the following journaling prompts for further exploration:
- What experiences do I see myself with in 1 year? And in 10 years?
- What would be the most joyful way for me to achieve this goal (go through each goal)?
- How would I like to feel in 1 year? How in 5 years?
- What part of my life gives me the most joy (+ the feeling mentioned in the previous question) right now?
- What are you most proud of?
- Imagine your dream life. What are you doing? Describe and explain it in as much detail as possible.